TO SETTLE OR NOT TO SETTLE?

Posted on October 26th, 2011

 

To settle or not to settle?

This is our generations’ greatest question.

 
Heck, I’d say SETTLING is GenYs and Millennials GREATEST FEAR – the thought of settling giving us nightmares. Like the time we watched Stephen King’s IT and slept with the nightlight until we were fourteen. (Yep, still can’t look a clown in the eye).

The FEAR OF SETTLING

 
We’re the, I Can Do Anything, Get the Freak Out of My Way, Generation. We are the, I’ll-work-how-I-want, when-I-want, where-I-want, Generation.

We want it our way.

Picture of Hope

Picture by Darren Tunnicliff – Creative Commons

So what happens when our way becomes no way in hell?

What happens when Plan A is shredded like an old tax statement?

What happens when you’re working, well, just to work? You know, to pay those silly things called bills?

What happens when moving in with your parent’s, or a cardboard box, becomes your only two options?

This fear of settling swirls in your stomach like a blender turned on high, the expectations of the big life you envisioned pureed like a jar of baby food.
 

To Settle or Not to Settle?
Is That the Right Question?

 
What’s settling? Is it taking a job just to pay the bills? Is it moving in with your parents? Is it some external setback?

Well, no, I don’t think so.

Our generation must not confuse setbacks for settling.

Sure many in our GenY, MIllennial Generation are not acting out our greatest dreams right now. But we can settle for a season without settling. Settling, is simply, giving up. It’s letting your dreams be suffocated by your current reality.

However, if I know our generation, I don’t see us throwing in the towel.

Sure maybe we’ve joined forces with a not-so-glamorous life. Maybe we’re not going to be a feature article in our alumni magazine anytime soon.

But I think our generation’s most important characteristic is that we have the ability to stay optimistic, even when the world turns quite depressing.

Because we’re not settling. We’re visiting. This is a season, a stage, the perfect place in time to help us take a step to the next.

There is magnificence in the mundane, if we choose to look for it.

To settle or not to settle? Is this the right question?

 

Picture by Darren Tunnicliff – Creative Commons

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Comments

12 comments
  1. Great reference to IT! I have the same issue with clowns.

    On a serious note, though, you definitely hit the nail with this one.

    • Thanks Jacqui. Not sure which freaks me out more — settling or the painted on smile. Ha

  2. I would say you are definitely onto something! We have this fear of settling for something mediocre but then we end up not choosing anything at all. It’s a hard juggling act to balance. I think we (me, at least) could look at any life direction we decide to take as not necessarily settling, but more experimentation in figuring out what works.

    • “not necessarily settling, but more experimentation in figuring out what works.”

      Yep. Exactly. So much of the growing up and growing into process for me has been figuring out what I don’t want in life, which has then clarified what I do. Thanks Louise

  3. Some times you’re not going to land that amazing job or make $1000 per month on that new product you just released. But, at least you’re starting something in your life besides sitting on your ass and relaxing. Our generation needs to realize that you don’t have to feel bad just because things aren’t going the way that you want things to be right now. In time with a strong set of skills and experiences you’re going to accomplish those goals that you have in life you just have to be patient and continue to have a focused work ethic and you’re going to bypass the lazy people and the “i wish” people.

  4. Right on Justice. For too many years post-college I existed in the “I Wish” and If Only.

    If only I would’ve stopped sooner…

  5. I don’t believe we’re settling if, while we’re in a rut, we get creative and continue to hone our talent & skills in our area(s) of interest.

    I’m 25, I live with my mom, I have a full-time job that is less than fulfilling, and I’m working on my MBA (also full-time). My time is limited but in the free time that I do have, I commit it to increasing my knowledge of social media, which is the career that I’m passionate about.

    I’m exploring and like you’ve mentioned above, experimenting, with things that I like and that I don’t like so that when the time comes, I’ll be prepared to walk into the job of my dreams…whenever that happens. And it will happen :)

    • “I don’t believe we’re settling if, while we’re in a rut, we get creative and continue to hone our talent & skills in our area(s) of interest.”

      Couldn’t agree more Rashida. I think that’s the key to doing this twentysomething transtion well. Our 20′s are about preparation more than anything, if we’re willing…

  6. Great post! This definately speaks to me where I’m at right now, whith the seemingly never-ending question of ‘Am I settling?’. Thanks for the reminder that this is just a season in life, preparing us for something bigger that God has planned :)

  7. I think everything is rational. If you settle, it’s because you love to chill and relax! IF you don’t settle, it’s b/c you want more.

    Everything is aligned! I couldn’t be more happier for Gen Y.

    Sam

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