The UnSexy Truth to Finding Your Passion

unsexy truth to finding your passion


What if I could tell you right now where to find your passion.

And even though I might know very little about you, I’d be right 99.77% of the time.

Sound like infomercial-too-good-to-be-true?

Well there’s no set of steak knives at the end of this post, so I promise I’m not selling you a dang thing.

Finding your passion is actually pretty simple and I can tell you right now where it’s hiding.


unsexy truth to finding your passion

Drum Roll Please

Your passion is not found in achieving success.

Your passion is embedded in failure that you have refused to let fail.

Let me explain…


“A man who fails well is greater than one who succeeds badly.” Thomas Merton


Take me for example. Through my 20’s, many of my “great ideas” and passionate pursuits have gone straight to the trash, except for one thing.


No matter how times I’ve burned these fingers, I keep pounding on this craft with fire and hammers. Writing — my Energizer bunny that keeps on going and going…

And I haven’t kept writing because I’ve been pinch-me-I’m-dreaming “successful”. No six-figure-publishing deal and back-strokes in the Duck Tales swimming pool of gold coins for me.

I’ve kept writing because I can not, NOT do it.


“Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night.” Terri Guillemets


As a twentysomething walking the plank into the sea of real-worldness, each year that passed I felt like a character in The Office, drowning in a job I hated because I couldn’t find the job I loved.

My goal was to be successful and find my passion. But what if those two goals are mutually exclusive — at least at first?

The one-hit wonder didn’t find their passion. They found commercial success. The one-hit wonder shimmers like a sparkler – bright for one moment then dark the next.

Passion is like a low-lit candle – a small fire that refuses to be put out.

One-hit wonders are addicted to the accolades.

Passionate pursuers are addicted to the process.


Your Passion Keeps on Going and Going…

Where has your face been shoved deep into the mud, but you have refused to stay down?

Where have your knees been scraped and bloody, yet you keep running ahead?

Where has your voice cracked, yet you continue to try and belt out the high notes?

Where have you failed, yet refuse to let fail?

Your passion is something you can not, NOT do.



  1. Emily

    Failure was never something I was “supposed” to do. My parents and everyone around me just assumed that I would complete and usually be very successful at every thing I took on in life, that was just “who I was”. The always do thing “the right way” girl. So when I found my passion and embarked on post graduate studies it was never a questioned that I would carry this tradition on and complete my studies, do my practical and get a great job. Alas, life decided to happen while I was making plans. Mid way through my honours year in psychology my boyfriend broke up with me, one of my best friend friends made me a bridesmaid, I had to get a second night job bar tending to make ends meet and I started my practical evening counselling sessions. End result: I failed half my subjects. Since then, I have gotten my degree and enriched my knowledge and skill 10 fold. I’m still furiously knocking doors to get someone to give me a chance but in the words of my late cousin: “I know I’m too good to give up now”.

    • admin

      Thanks Emily for sharing your story. You definitely learn a lot about your passion when you have to fight to give it an opportunity to breathe. Kudos to you for taking one step after another…

  2. Annie

    I love this. I’m the same about writing, it is 100% my passion. I fear that unless I can write amazing fiction I will forever go unnoticed, but I’m prepared to keep doing what I love (mostly writing about Jesus), to keep being rejected, to keep being turned away, because I love it too much to not keep going.

    • admin

      Awesome Annie. You’re definitely in the sweet spot of rocking your passion. Keep going.


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