When the vivacious and entertaining Marcy the Matchmaker asks you to be a guest on her show to talk about growing up and getting married — you do it. Thus why I had the extreme privilege of sharing with Marcy the Matchmaker what I call The Three Keys to Forming a Kick-Ass Marriage (because honestly a lot of us need a kick in the you-know-what…)
To give you a little taste on what Marcy and I discuss, here’s the Three Keys to a Kick-Ass Marriage.
1. Stop Obsessing about Finding the Right Person. Instead Worry About Becoming the Right Person for Someone Else.
Like attracts Like. So are you becoming someone worth liking?
2. Stop Traveling with so Many Freaking Bags!
We grow up packing bags with our insecurities, fears, bad relationships, problems with our parents — you name it. Then we carry all these bags into our relationship and wonder why everything is so exhausting.
I think many of enter into marriage believing that it’s going to help solve our problems. When instead marriage is great at unpacking the bags to reveal how many problems you have been carrying around.
Newly married in a small apartment. There’s not much room for all the bags filled with your crap. Start ditching them now.
3. What Will you Create Together?
Marriage isn’t the end answer. It’s the beginning question. What will you create?
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Do you have a key to a kick-ass marriage or dating relationship? Let’s hear your thoughts.
Paul – These are GREAT points! I also watched your video with Marcy and shared it on FB and Twitter because I think what you have to say is super important. I’m actually designing a group coaching program for single women that will start in about 1 month that includes the principals you speak of above. We have such similar audiences and messages, it seems like we could help each other out with marketing and other things! If you’re interested, we should chat about how we could support each other’s mission. I hope you’re having a great week!
Thank you Jessie May for the kind compliment and for sharing the post. I think the work you do is amazing and would love to talk further about ways to collaborate!
That’s a great clip… the matchmaker one! Great conversation 🙂
Thanks Karina!