Honestly, I probably should be selling you this formula for overnight success for $29.99 and a free set of steak knives (plus $69.99 shipping and handling), but just as long as you send 10% my way from your overnight financial bonanza, this success-secret is yours. (Just kidding about the 10% thing. 3-5% would be just fine).

Overnight success is like Jack and the Giant Bean Stock, one night you throw a couple magic beans in the ground and the next day you’re holding a goose that can’t help but poop golden nuggets. What could be better?

My golden goose came by the way of an article I wrote called 21 Secrets for your 20s, which became an overnight hit having now been read nearly a million times in 190 countries, and leading to a book deal for 101 Secrets for your Twenties that releases this July 1^st.

And I have the patented secret on how you can do the same.

You ready?

To read the secret to becoming an overnight success, check out the rest of this article at Jenny Blake’s Life After College where I am contributing today.

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I love when people meet me where I’m at. Right now, I’m lounging in the comfort of my old bedroom at my parents house in sunny West Palm Beach, FL. The alternative to this vacation week would have been to bust my butt-like I do every week-working 12-hour shifts at a very prominent production company while getting paid close to nothing.

Fun fact: Window cashiers at Taco Bell make more money than entertainment industry production assistants. This is not to downplay the excellent services offered by [some] Taco Bell employees, but to highlight that Hollywood is not all glamour.

My collegiate studies inspired me to want to become an illustrious screenwriter. I graduated a year early and decided to hit the ground running because I’d been told that the road to success is long. May 2012 I moved to LA. Since then I’ve discovered that I have an affinity towards writing, but my true passion lies in dance. Yes, I know. I’m all over the place. No, I’m not making this up.

In the past year:

• I have run into wall after wall in my job search. I’ve worked for free when I shouldn’t have. I’ve advised friends to help them get awesome full time jobs while I, ironically, remained unemployed. I have been a final candidate for entry level dream jobs (plural, multiple occasions), but was ultimately rejected each time.

• I have stumbled over every emotional obstacle in my most recent relationship. Let’s not go into detail about that monster roller-coaster just yet.

• I have fallen into every pit and sink hole that was open in regards to faith. Don’t worry I’m in a better place now.

However, to be brief, I’m a little beat up. I needed a breather. I needed to come home.

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Home is great! It’s a pick-me-up – a reminder that life has the capacity to be regular, consistent, and comfortable. Comfortable. It’s great and comfortable until your family friend comes over and gushes about how her son started a successful business in Silicon Valley, and now has a spread on page 72 of Entrepreneur; and how her daughter is making buku money and living it up on South Beach. She’s two years older than me. No big deal.

Now let me be clear. Jealousy should NEVER be a motivator. Actions fueled by jealousy tend to end in tragedy and don’t provide the sense of fulfillment we all search for. I am glad to know that her family is doing well. Her kids are out in the world being awesome. If anything, good news should be infectious, contagious, and a solid kick in the pants.

Let good beget good! There is more life to be had! More dreams to be chased! More puzzles to be solved! I cannot see the big picture of my life just yet, but I’m holding on to the precious pieces that fit together correctly so far.

Also, I can’t say that our family friend didn’t meet me where I was at today. She may not have noticed that I was on the bench, nursing wounds of the past year. Probably because I wasn’t flaunting my hurt around. Yet, her good news was like another punch in the face saying that you’ve got to get up before you get stuck in your comfort zone. It’s safe there for a while but you can’t stay there forever. I’m sure her son had to push some boundaries to get his business going. Her daughter had to hustle like any other youth before she found her current job.

So, next week I’ll be back in L.A. to continue figuring out who I am and what I really want.

In all, it can be difficult, but it is wise to let the good news of others ignite you. Let it burn you out of your comfort zone. (No, that does not mean I’m going to set my parents’ house on fire.) If you need a break or some rest, go home or wherever your physical comfort zone may be. Get it because you’ll need it. Just don’t become paralyzed. Keep it moving.

Where are you now? Where are you going? I’d love to meet you there.

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Are you working your dream job right now?

Was that question so ridiculously far from truth that you just let out an incensed snort and want to punch me in the face?

If you’re a twentysomething and graduated somewhere within this “great” recession, chances are you’ve had a crappy job (or two) (or three) (or four)….

Before I graduated college, I made fun of all those unfortunate twentysomethings working in lifeless, listless, and pointless jobs. Until that unfortunate twentysomething was me. Then it became a lot less funny.

A crappy job can feel like a black hole — it sucks and feels impossible to escape.

How can you be strategic and smart with your lousy job to make sure it’s a quick stop and not a long, black-hole-sucking, stay? Here’s five tips on how you not only survive your lousy job, but leverage it into a job that is dream-esque.

5 Vital Tips to Surviving and Thriving in your Twentysomething-Painful-Profession

1. You are Not Alone

First, I promise you’re not alone. A majority of your friends are experiencing the same “please God, make it stop” job experience. No matter how cool they’ve made their job sound on Facebook, they’re struggling to find meaning in their days as well.

So pick up the phone. Call a friend or two. Be honest. Don’t put a PR spin on the unspinnable. Then listen for this amazing thing called actual, honest, conversation. Laugh together about how bad it feels. Share war stories and strategies.

You’re not alone. And just knowing that fact can make that crappy job smell a lot better.

2. Start a Side-Hustle

When you’re not finding fulfillment with the old 8-5 thing, start finding fulfillment with a side-hustle. I believe Pamela Slim of Escape from Cubicle Nation coined the phrase “side-hustle,” basically it’s that thing — that idea, that book, that website, that training, that education, THAT SOMETHING you’re going to pursue during the after-hours.

An effective side-hustle will give you energy and creativity — two necessary flames that need to be ignited if you are going to escape this lousy job. It’s not going to pay the bills right away, but hustle enough and maybe soon it will.

3. Don’t Take to Social Media to Complain

You’ve had another terrible day in your terrible job and you just need to vent. Just say no to sharing it with the entire Internet world.

As I wrote about in 12 Facebook Updates that Need to Stop Happening, complaining about your lousy job on Facebook will turn off Non-Crappy Job’s from luring you in their direction. They’ll worry that if they hired you it would be just a matter of time before you’re complaining about them too.

4. Calls, Lunches, Coffee, Rinse, Repeat

Dive headfirst into that network of yours. Reach out to everyone. No relationship is off limits. Timmy, who you did Boy Scouts with in elementary school. Jessica who you competed against in a pageant. Mary who stole your boyfriend in 9th grade. (Seriously, she owes you one!).

Talk to as many people as you can. Show them your excitement and your passion. You’d be surprised how many job opportunities come through acquaintances and friends-of-friends. People like helping people. Especially if they don’t know all your junk like your best friend does.

5. Learn What Needs to be Learned

I’m one of those everything is happening for a reason kind of people. Sometimes I forget I’m one of these people and go into a deep depression of eating raw cookie dough alone in the dark while listening to Death Cab for Cutie, but give me a week or two and I’ll snap out of it.

Every job, no matter how terrible, has something to teach. What skills can be gained NOW that you can leverage LATER?

What extra assignments or tasks can you volunteer for that better align with your strengths and interests? Who can you start buttering up — “Wow Greg, you designed that brochure so well. You’re so talented. What’s your secret” — so that you can begin informally shadowing them and learning a new set of skills. Start becoming proficient in your passion.

Don’t sit back passively waiting for an opportunity, look for ways to create one.

Sometimes you learn the most in the jobs you like the least.

 I’d love to hear from you in the comments below: What’s one strategy you have for surviving or thriving in your lousy job?

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Since my engagement at 20, I’ve absorbed the subtle and overt arguments for later marriage. Our culture is shifting to favor later marriage: only 21 percent of millennials (those ages 18-29) are married, and the median age (27 for women and 29 for men) is higher than the three generations prior.

I realize that many people wait for valid and myriad reasons. However, as someone on the early side of the marriage bell curve, I also see unacknowledged value in young marriage. Here are four common objections to young marriage from the perspective of someone who did it anyway:

Photo via Jacey Verdicchio – The Balanced Wife

1. You are giving up too much

Making huge life changes, like moving, to accommodate a partner’s dream or career is sometimes viewed as a tactical error. This level of sacrifice, especially at a young age, seems to some a naïve oversight, sure to breed resentment later.

In reality, marriage requires sacrifice from both people on behalf of one another, every day, no matter their ages. When I moved to marry Mike, it was a worthwhile sacrifice, and I knew he would sacrifice for me in the future. Considering Mike and how my decisions affect him has kept me grounded during what may otherwise have been a self absorbed, self-serving stage of my life.

2. You should establish your career first

Pulling late nights to get ahead may be less feasible when a spouse wants to see you for dinner, but a supportive spouse can also be an X factor at work. Knowing the person you care most about has your back makes it a lot easier to face interviews, sales calls and tense meetings. Zig Ziglar used to call it the “home team advantage.” The 20-something years, marked by upheaval and rapid change, can be stabilized by a consistent, loving spouse.

Mike’s belief in me has helped me grow professionally beyond where I’d be without him. Our individual goals fit in a larger picture of combined goals, so we spur each other toward them. We’ve helped each other on a practical level by making professional introductions and referrals, since we have two networks to draw upon.

3. You need to be on your game financially

Money problems are the number one cause of divorce in the U.S., so premarital financial planning is a wise and important step, but being on the same page about money is more important than how much you have.

Arguments against young marriage for women often cite research showing that women who marry after 30 make more money over their lifetimes. Sentimental as it may be, who wouldn’t trade any amount of money for an extra five or ten years with her spouse?

There are some financial upsides to early marriage as well: operating one household is less expensive, and two incomes allow you to pay off debt and grow long term savings more quickly. In our case, my income helped Mike finish grad school and subsequently his has allowed me to make more risky, strategic career choices than I could if I were supporting myself with one income. Though maturity and commitment are prerequisites for a successful marriage, a perfectly crafted and established life is not.

4. You change too much in your 20’s to know what you really want in a partner

We change so much during our 20’s. Is it wise to make a marriage commitment when you’ll be a different person in five years, or even six months?

My husband and I will celebrate our fifth anniversary this year. We have both changed dramatically, but we are still in love and thrilled to be married. Mike has shined a light into some of the places in my heart I wouldn’t have found on my own during this time of massive change. Constant communication and connection have allowed us to grow together and to keep our priorities on the same page, even as some have changed.

Since we married early, years sprawled before us on our wedding day, leaving plenty of time for travel and self exploration. We’ve had a chance to grow up together before raising our own kids. During this turbulent, jarring adjustment to adulthood, my marriage has provided the most secure, happy part of my life.

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It’s been a wild, crazy, busy ride this last year and I have to say a BIG THANK YOU to this amazing All Groan Up community! Without your support, shout-outs, and all-around awesomeness, there’s no way Today’s BIG Announcement would be happening!! Period. Exclamation point. Times a thousand. So….

I’m extremely stoked, nervous, and thrilled to announce:

Yes! Due to the crazy popularity of 21 secrets for your 20s, I landed an incredible publishing deal with Moody Publishers, joining fellow authors Gary Chapman, Jeff Goins, Scott McClellan, Rhett Smith, Ally Vesterfelt, Matt Appling and Sarah Cunningham — to name a few. It’s awesome joining a team who shares in my passion and goal to come along side this generation to help you answer the tough questions like “what now?” And help refresh you for the journey.

“101 Secrets for Your Twenties“ will dive deeper into the details of twentysomething life, offering hope, encouragement, and inspiration. If you LOVED 21 Secrets for your 20s, you will die reading “101 Secrets for your Twenties.” It is laugh out loud funny, sarcastic, wise, unique, meaningful, and has the potential to meet you right where you are at, no matter what path you currently have found yourself on.

I want to encourage you, awe you, inspire you, and have you laughing until it hurts with this new book. You DESERVE it!

For all the disappointment, heartache, pain, confusion, and crap you’ve had to face so far in this exhilarating decade called your 20s. You deserve it. And This is my BEST work yet, so I am excited to have you join me in welcoming my debut book.

Less than Two Months Away

101 Secrets releases July 1st, but is already available RIGHT NOW on book retailer sites like Amazon for pre-order and if you do so, hold onto your receipt for some amazing free stuff coming your way. (Oh yeah and did I mention it’s A-mazing FREE stuff valued at over $239 on top of the already awesome book?) Also first person to catch the typo on the Amazon page and email it to me, will win a prize too!

There’s going to be more announcements coming soon about ways you can help spread the word and possibly join the Top Secret Crew for exclusive access to the book and myself. So definitely hold tight for that as well.

And for those Groan Up die-hards who’ve been awaiting for the release of my other book All Groan Up: Searching for Self, Faith, and a Freaking Job! that was supposed to release this spring, 101 Secrets for your Twenties is NOT a re-branded version of that book. All Groan Up: Searching for Self, Faith, and a Freaking Job! still very much exists separate from 101 Secrets, the timing just worked out to release 101 Secrets for your Twenties first.

Thank you Groan Ups!

I am excited about every piece of “101 Secrets for your Twenties” and I can’t wait to share it with you. I  am my biggest critic, so I even surprised myself when after reading through it last week I sat back and told my wife, “Wow, this is seriously a good book. I really like it.”

Thank you, thank you, oh and did I say thank you for all the encouragement and support you’ve given me along this journey. With your help, I can’t wait to see how far and wide we can send this book together. Go check out the book on Amazon, on the book tab above, and start spreading the word. This is a team effort!

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:

What do you think about the cover or the title? Do you have any questions about the book?

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Do you ever feel like you’re spinning sixteen different glass plates at once? The question not if they will fall, but when? And how many shards of glass will be left lodged in your legs once they do?

That’s how I’ve felt the last six months. My spinning glass plates? Being an Author. Blogger. Speaker. Full-Time Employee. Husband. New Father. Friend. Son. Brother. Neighbor…The list goes on and on…

Where should my time be spent? What comes first? Second? Or not at all?

How the heck do you balance sixteen different elephants all jumping on the same side of a teeter-totter – without being crushed in the process?

To read the rest on re-defining balance, please head over to Life After College where I have the awesome privilege of writing today.

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What if you could have a face to face talk with your 21-year-old self?

What would you tell him or her?

Your twenties are about pointing your life a certain direction and one way or another, you’re going to be sailing somewhere. What would you tell yourself to make sure you were on the right course?

I was an idiot at 21. Let’s be honest. People that knew me back then are probably shaking their heads in full-fledged agreement.

If I could transport back and find myself sleeping on that bottom bunk in Santa Barbara, first, I’d tell myself to clean up my room and then do some serious scrubbing on that shower, because that stuff is just nasty. How the heck do you live like this?

Cockiness is insecurity on steroids. Like a 4′ 11″ male driving a lifted truck, no one cares how cool you think you look. Actually it turns most people off.

Grit — To plow through the not-so-glamorous. Learn and do it well, so you start getting opportunities for the semi-glamorous.

Twentysomethings who work with grit and humility are the ones who are going to rock their 30s like Nickelback at the Missouri State Fair.

Money should be the least of your worries throughout your 20s.

Not only is it healthy to live life in community. But I promise that every lil’ bit of success you experience in your twenties will be birthed out of a relationship.

Your twenties are about learning how to use these tools effectively, while continually gathering bigger, more complex tools.

Your tool shed out back is endless. Never think you can fill it to the max. Never stop reading, learning, asking the right questions, and challenging yourself.

That’s all right. Your 20s don’t come to fruition in a day, they are shaped in a decade.

Your 20′s aren’t about perfection, your 20s are about process.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:

What one piece of advice would you give your 21-year-old self?

What point above did you resonate with the most?

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Confession: I use old TV shows for comfort and I’m not embarrassed to admit it!

Okay…I’m a little embarrassed to admit it, but I’m going to anyway.

Having just turned 25, the world can sometimes feel sort of…heavy.

Yes, I’m generally happy, healthy, have a stable job, and good people in my life. But between my childhood friends drifting apart, spending countless hours deliberating how to pursue my dreams (and even more struggling to put together some concrete image of what those dreams are), and figuring out how I’m going to afford living in NYC without resorting to surviving on street meat, I’m constantly reminded that time is moving steadily whether I’m ready or not.

Frankly, just coming to terms with the fact that I am apparently looked at as a responsible adult—um, what?—can be overwhelming.

Sometimes, a little Cosby Show, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Full House, or Friends is all it takes to calm me down.

I think it’s because I know these classic ‘80s and ‘90s shows will always be there. They will never change. They are a time capsule. Something feels so damn good and homey about that. They take me back to “a simpler time” and keep me in touch with my inner kid.

Yet as much as it feels like I’m just vegging out, I always end up gaining some surprising benefits from tuning in to these throwbacks. (That’s in addition to the hot-cocoa-hug-on-a-winter-day feeling I STILL get from seeing Uncle Jesse. Two words: Have mercy.) They help inspire me to:

1. Streamline Issues

Okay, I realize that the way sitcoms wrap up difficult situations in under a half an hour isn’t exactly realistic, but it gets me thinking that there are things in my life that I over-complicate and could handle in quicker, more strategic ways.

2. Go For My Dreams

Along with the oldies, current Disney shows like Shake It Up or Austin and Ally, which both depict young people going after their dreams with such fearless passion, get me fired up and motivated. They’ve often helped me kick my ego to the side, if even just for a night, to start writing a piece or booking my next dance class.

3. Be A Kinder, More Lighthearted Person

I dare you to be in a bad mood after viewing the Carlton dance in all its glory. Come on—I dare you! The fantastic corniness of certain shows helps me take myself less seriously.

I swear I’m not making up these side perks as a way to justify lazy time. Hey, perhaps if MORE people watched Family Matters re-runs, the world would be a happier, more peaceful place!

Just kidding.

Actually, it couldn’t hurt. But that’s beside the point.

In my opinion, as long as one isn’t in denial that times are in fact a’changin’, getting a regular dose of nostalgia from old TV favorites is normal and healthy. Because let’s face it—sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name. Now, what the heck is so wrong with that?

I’d love to hear from you:

What old sitcom makes you feel all warm and snuggly inside?

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It’s time you took a glimpse behind the All Groan Up curtain.

I want you to see the Paul behind the Paul, the story behind All Groan Up, and what it involved getting to the point we are at today. I’d like to share with you, my friends, the good, the bad, the struggles, and the successes.

11 Things You Might Not Know About All Groan UP and Paul Angone

Most days I feel like I haven’t strayed too far from my middle school self — insecure about my weight, acne flair-ups, and someone cooler than I making fun of me. I have this sneaking suspicion that our insecurities never fully go away. We just have to become better at shutting insecurity up when it starts whispering its lies.

And most of the time writing feels like work. Hard, lonely work! Yes, at the heart, I love it and it means something deeply to me. But it doesn’t mean I’m singing Disney tunes or whistling while I type.

And when she is not free to edit, the article usually runs wild with a few glaring grammar mistakes.

My wife is seriously the brains behind this operation and does not get the credit/accolades she deserves. She’s a former Merryl Lynch financial adviser, but now has the craziest full time job of them all staying at home with our two active girls. To edit my stuff she either has to forgo the only  9 minutes of peace she has in the day or stay up really late.

And she definitely does not shy away from letting me know what she really thinks about something I write! Then I get defensive. And we argue about it. Then I sulk. Then two hours later I usually change it because I know she’s right.

Yep, I have a day job. A great, extremely busy, stressful-at-times, job. I am a marketing specialist at a private university where I strategize marketing plans, creative elements, and am somewhat of a project/client manager. So all my writing for All Groan Up is done in the wee hours of the morning or late at nights.

Sometimes I feel like I have three full-time jobs between my writing/speaking, marketing endeavors, and family. It’s tough, but all very worth it. Most days. Especially if I’ve gotten more than 6 and 1/2 hours of sleep.

So that’s just a small peak behind the curtain. Enough about me! I’d love it if you shared something about yourself in the comments below. Maybe something you’re embarrassed to tell people (like my two.finger.typing) or maybe just a cool, fun fact about yourself. Don’t be ashamed to brag too. We will sing praises or lament with you here at All Groan Up..

Or if you don’t want to talk about yourself, ask any question you want about me or this site, and I will do my best to answer as soon as I can. I always try to get back to every person.

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We’ve been lied to.

And these lies are holding us back.

Too many twenty-somethings are driving through the twists and turns of their 20′s with windshields covered in mud, lies, and half-truths. And then we wonder why so many of us have crashed?

We need to hose these lies off right now or spend our 20′s stuck on the side of the road.

Last week I wrote about the 11 questions every twenty-something needs to ask. If you didn’t get a chance to work on some of your answers, please check it out.

However, if we’re going to walk forward with those answers, taking our 20′s by the ears and snarling at them, then we need to stop believing the following lies right now.

5 Lies Twenty-Somethings Need to Stop Believing. Right! Now!

1. I’m the Only One Struggling

WHAT A LIE!

If you’ve read much on All Groan Up, you know that I’d love to lock this lie away in a Serbian prison and give the key to a pack of Arctic wolves to defend. You are not alone in your struggle, questions, wondering what’s next?, now what?, or do I have what it takes?

Our 20′s are tough. That’s the truth. Too many twenty-somethings are struggling through a quarter-life crisis all alone.

We all need help. We all need support. We all need nudges, prompts, advice, and encouragement.

No one has it all figured out.

The twenty-somethings who think they do are the ones in for the biggest shock of them all.

2. I Should Be Successful by Now! Like Right Now!

WHAT A LIE!

I fully expected to walk straight into a crazy-successful twenty-something life with accolades,  salaries, bonuses, a big-ol-fat-book-deal, and a plethora of people who wanted to learn my secrets to success, all by 23 years old. Maybe 25 if I really hit some serious setbacks.

I didn’t realize that success takes time — loads of time.

Success is not an Egg McMuffin, delivered to us for a $3, three minute investment.

No, success is the Sistine Chapel — it takes years, pain, frustration, thousands of brushes, colors, and crumpled up sketches before you have your masterpiece.

Countless famed figures we idolize, like Abraham Lincoln, failed drastically in their 20′s. Success is not a sprint, it’s an Ironman marathon and our 20′s aren’t really about running the actual race. No, our 20′s are simply about building our endurance so that we can run the race in the future.

If you take one step towards your dream today, you are a success.

Success happens in the details.

3. Life is Not Turning Out Like it Was Supposed To

WHAT A LIE!

Well, kind of. Yes, life is not turning out like it was supposed to, but what the heck is supposed to? There is no supposed to. Supposed to is a lie. Supposed to is built on the perception of someone else’s perceived success. Live your life right now exactly as it is and do your best to keep moving forward into where you want to go. That’s what you’re supposed to do.

4. I Don’t Have What it Takes

WHAT A LIE!

I 100% guarantee you have what it takes. I triple-stamp a double-stamp, 100% money-back guarantee you have what it takes.

It’s just going to take some time to figure out what exactly “it” is.

Our 20′s are a process not a surprise party.

You don’t just walk into the door and all of the sudden your calling jumps out from behind the couch.

You’re extremely talented at something. We just need to start pulling off the layers to get a glimpse of what that something is. (See 11 Questions Every Twenty-Something Needs to Ask and How to Find Your Passion)

5. I am a Failure

WHAT A LIE!

The only failure of our 20′s would be if we never had any.

The only failure of our 20′s is if we fail and then call ourselves failures.

Our 2o’s are going to be riddled with failure. Anyone that tells you otherwise is a liar.

Failure is not a period, it’s a comma. And only if you stop trying will you really fail.

There’s only one way to be successful in our twenties — fail, tweak, then try again.

I’d love to hear from you in the comments below:

What lie is holding you back?

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