Today I’m honored to introduce to you Gisselle Bodden. This is how Giselle described herself to me: “I currently do not have a website or even a Twitter account to plug. My lack of use of social media is very embarrassing. All of my free time is spent dancing Salsa and Bachata; attending random activities found through Group On and Living Social; and crying while watching The Voice. It’s a surprisingly emotional show.” I liked her right away.
I love when people meet me where I’m at. Right now, I’m lounging in the comfort of my old bedroom at my parents house in sunny West Palm Beach, FL. The alternative to this vacation week would have been to bust my butt-like I do every week-working 12-hour shifts at a very prominent production company while getting paid close to nothing.
Fun fact: Window cashiers at Taco Bell make more money than entertainment industry production assistants. This is not to downplay the excellent services offered by [some] Taco Bell employees, but to highlight that Hollywood is not all glamour.
My collegiate studies inspired me to want to become an illustrious screenwriter. I graduated a year early and decided to hit the ground running because I’d been told that the road to success is long. May 2012 I moved to LA. Since then I’ve discovered that I have an affinity towards writing, but my true passion lies in dance. Yes, I know. I’m all over the place. No, I’m not making this up.
In the past year:
- I have run into wall after wall in my job search. I’ve worked for free when I shouldn’t have. I’ve advised friends to help them get awesome full time jobs while I, ironically, remained unemployed. I have been a final candidate for entry level dream jobs (plural, multiple occasions), but was ultimately rejected each time.
- I have stumbled over every emotional obstacle in my most recent relationship. Let’s not go into detail about that monster roller-coaster just yet.
- I have fallen into every pit and sink hole that was open in regards to faith. Don’t worry I’m in a better place now.
However, to be brief, I’m a little beat up. I needed a breather. I needed to come home.
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Home is great! It’s a pick-me-up – a reminder that life has the capacity to be regular, consistent, and comfortable. Comfortable. It’s great and comfortable until your family friend comes over and gushes about how her son started a successful business in Silicon Valley, and now has a spread on page 72 of Entrepreneur; and how her daughter is making buku money and living it up on South Beach. She’s two years older than me. No big deal.
Now let me be clear. Jealousy should NEVER be a motivator. Actions fueled by jealousy tend to end in tragedy and don’t provide the sense of fulfillment we all search for. I am glad to know that her family is doing well. Her kids are out in the world being awesome. If anything, good news should be infectious, contagious, and a solid kick in the pants.
Let good beget good! There is more life to be had! More dreams to be chased! More puzzles to be solved! I cannot see the big picture of my life just yet, but I’m holding on to the precious pieces that fit together correctly so far.
Also, I can’t say that our family friend didn’t meet me where I was at today. She may not have noticed that I was on the bench, nursing wounds of the past year. Probably because I wasn’t flaunting my hurt around. Yet, her good news was like another punch in the face saying that you’ve got to get up before you get stuck in your comfort zone. It’s safe there for a while but you can’t stay there forever. I’m sure her son had to push some boundaries to get his business going. Her daughter had to hustle like any other youth before she found her current job.
So, next week I’ll be back in L.A. to continue figuring out who I am and what I really want.
In all, it can be difficult, but it is wise to let the good news of others ignite you. Let it burn you out of your comfort zone. (No, that does not mean I’m going to set my parents’ house on fire.) If you need a break or some rest, go home or wherever your physical comfort zone may be. Get it because you’ll need it. Just don’t become paralyzed. Keep it moving.
Where are you now? Where are you going? I’d love to meet you there.
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